Freeform Loc Love Update

Okay so I thought I would catch you all up on what my hair is looking like and how I'm feeling about it these days. There have been a few times when these girls have almost bit the dust. I was having issues with keeping my hands out of my hair so I would just shampoo when I felt the need to "fix them" or otherwise manipulate them. The turning point was when my husband told me how in love he is with my hair and that he thinks this is the best style I've ever had. Well, that sealed the deal. So my next problem was/is that I have 2 that aren't defined locks, but rather little bunches of hair. I have to be honest. I molest the mess our of those little bunches of hair, but feeling them lock is quite interesting. 

At the end of the day I am having to learn to trust my hair which is what I have been telling people for years. The other day one of my "clients" came over to get her hair styled. I put quotes around client because she is a freeformer. OMG!!! Her hair was straight LIONESS!!! I was SO JEALOUS and SO MOTIVATED!!! Her  hair is gorgeous. We braided it and she sat under the dryer for about 15 minutes which is her time limit, and then we just pinned it up into a style. She called me today to tell me that the style even ALMOST won her aunt over which is a BIG deal. lol The funny thing is that I am learning a lot from what here hair is doing. For example the front ones want to join and because she was popping them they were getting weak. I told her to that she could pop some but let the weak ones marry for strength. Y'all I am so excited. We'll being going out of town this weekend and it feels nice not to have to worry about making sure that my hair is done any particular way. It is what it is...literally. Hope you enjoy the update pics. There will probably be more when we go out of town. I'll try to remember to post them in a timely fashion. 

I know you can't really see my hair, but I looked cute. ;)

  

This is what I do when I wanna be super cute OR when I am going to be around folks what I don't care to explain the process to. No, I am not one of those people that likes to have those discussions about what I'm doing with my hair.

I was beaming from watching my lovely children in a performance of the Wizard of Oz.

I will be removing those beads because I am using them to cheat and train some locks to grow together. :(

Unhappy Twisting

I twisted my hair because I have a wedding to go to Saturday. I don't feel weird about my hair, but I don't believe in doing anything to draw attention to myself during someone else's wedding. We come from a smal circle and I just don't want to describe it. I'm so excited about it. Anyway, it's done now. I must admit that I was suprised by the growth. I will take a pic of it untwisted when I shampoo.

Idk what's with that one on the side...it doesn't like being twisted I think. lol

Lemme know whatcha think.

My hair update vid...

Sorry this vid sucks so bad, but I really don't feel comfortable in front of a camera. Anyway, hope you enjoy if for what it is...lol

Startin' my locks again...

I know I said I was gonna wait, but I can't do it. I keep saying that I want to get all this stuff done to the fro, but let's be honest. I didn't style my locks so I know good and darn well that I'm not going to style a fro. I've done all I'm gonna do and right now I'm wearing penitentiary braids under a wrap everyday...not cute.

Surprise!!!

Yep, they're gone. I guess I should change the name of the blog huh? LOL I might. That was my third set of locks. Each time I have started over it was for spiritual reasons the same way other people fast or cleanse I guess. I thought I would feel something that was similar to grieving, but I didn't. I felt elated each time a lock was cut. I almost felt high. I felt a release. I felt connected to my husband who is literally the best friend I have because this was such an intimate act. I can't remember everything that has happened in the 7 years since I had them, but it was time to let it go. I am happy. I feel absolutely beautiful. I've matured. I've evolved and will continue to do so. I am loved, I love myself, and I am basking in the afterglow.

Update...I think

Idk if I told y'all this, but I found a lock about a month or two ago that was weak. Just so that you understand the gravity of the situation, if I lose a lock I'm cutting them all off. If I cut them all off, I'm thinking it might cause a problem with Big Daddy. Needless to say I am tending to this lock like I did when my daughter was born premature. Really it just came down to laziness. I was doing thing for other people's hair while mine was being neglected. Not because of the freeforming I was doing, oh naw, wasn't that. I was just plain trifling. No oil, no water oil spritz, no massage, just not caring. Anyway, I'm back on track and have even styled it a few times. Those that know me personally know that is a pretty big deal. LOL I guess I should've taken pictures because idk how long this styling thing is going to last. Now when I say styling I don't mean rollers and all that. I mean bun on top loose in the back, or like this morning I have a ponytail with hair wrapped around. These styles are mostly to keep my hair out of the way during my busy homeschooling days. Anyhoo, just thought I'd up date you. I might even take pictures later. Probably not, but I can dream...

Just Curious

How long do you want your locks to get? I think I will let mine reach my waist and then I will either keep them there or cut them to mid back/bra strap length. My mom on the other hand just got her cut again on Saturday to a cute short layered look. Perhaps I'll take some pics and post them. Anyway, let me know what you think you'll do with your locks.

HIHD

Hand in hair disorder can be very serious for sufferers, especially lock wearers in some sort of transition. HIHD is a serious disorder in which the individual has trouble keeping their hands out of there hair. It may also be commonly known as hair molestation. In most cases of afro wearer it is mostly harmless, but it can be a more serious issue for those wearing locks. In the case of lock wearers it may actually slow the locking process. The process is often slowed by tugging at buds, over styling, and twisting to often. It can cause major frustration in a couple of ways.

1. After wearing traditional hairstyles in which constant maintenance is required, locking causes the wearer to have to reshape their normal behavior.
2. Allowing hair to go through often unpredictable changes can be a challenge in a society where we like to control everything.
3. Due to the stigmas that are still very prominent in this society, some may feel the compulsion to constantly twist and sometimes over twist edges.

In many cases the sufferer may have a flare up during the teenage stage of locking, when switching from latching to palmrolling or the reverse, and also when changing from traditional to free form or organic locks. I hope that this will be of some help to those that are suffering from HIHD or know someone who is. It is also my hope that this will be read with sense of humor and not taken seriously in the least. Live. Love. Laugh.

It's been almost a year

Well, it has been almost a year and I have to say that it has been a roller coaster ride. I still specialize in locs, but I have learned a lot in this time about natural hair. I am still deeply in love with what I do. God is blessing me with more clientele every week and I make more than I did working at the library. If you ask God for something just know that if it is for the good of others, He will blow your mind. I have developed a referral discount program in place of traditional advertising, and I make sure to offer other specials in this time of a lean economy to help my clients as much as possible. I really enjoy what I do. I will be blogging more often hopefully as the year comes to a close.